Would you ask your 14 yr old his email password? Up to what age would you control his emails and/or email a/c?

I so disagree with some people saying you don't trust your child. Its not always the child you don't trust its the other crazy people in the world you don't trust! I'm 21 and my parents watched and monitored my internet usage till I was 18. It wasn't because they didn't trust me it was because of some creeps that send you emails. They would scan through my emails, and never open them, they looked for emails from people who weren't in my address book. Which sometimes there was. I would say yes! Get the password, not because you don't trust your child, but because you don't trust everyone else. Just explain to him that there are some pervs in the world, but yet, still let him have his privacy, until his does something to loose your trust!Would you ask your 14 yr old his email password? Up to what age would you control his emails and/or email a/c?
Well I'm about that age. And it would drive me crazy if my parents knew my email password. When I got one when I was 11 I gave it to them, but I got a new email. So your son might just try that also. Really, kids are smart on computers, deleting history and getting into big trouble is not so hard ;] i would know.





Give him some space at first if you trust him. Check to see if he is deleting history, that usually is a sign of something bad. You can also occasionally tell him that you would like to see his email just to make sure. Thats not so bad, though I would want to shoot myself for it. :] but whatever keeps him safe right? My girlfriends mom used to read her IM's, but I think thats a little overboard, considering a lot of those are private. Don't read the emails, just see who he is writing to, and make sure hes not getting in trouble. Don't control who he is writing to, wait for him to mess up. hopefully, he won't.





no regrets %26lt;3Would you ask your 14 yr old his email password? Up to what age would you control his emails and/or email a/c?
Technically, if you are the legal guardian or parent of the 14 year old, you have the authority to control what they have access to on the internet, web, e-mail, etc. until they are 18 years old - especially, if you have concerns about who they are talking to and looking at online. Morally, it is their business - especially at the age of 14, they are going through many hard stages in life with body changes, friendships, etc. If you ask them their password to the e-mail address, just be aware that they MIGHT give it to you, but will most likely make a new e-mail account and not tell you about it; therefore, you have just created more issues for the both of you. Be sure to think about how you will ask them for the password (if you decide to do so) because you may cause a lot of friction between you two as well as a trust issue.
I'm 14(as of 30 min ago! ) and my parents know my password. I know that they trust me, it's just that in case they do suspect that something is wrong with me, (Drugs, alcohol, etc...) they can ';Investigate';. I know my parents trust me, so I don't worry that they are invading my privacy. So I think it's normal, and I'll probably have my kids tell me their passwords too. (Of course thats a LONG way away.) :D





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To the people who say that if you raised him right, you don't need to moniter him. If he's only 14, you're still raising him. And part of raising him is knowing what he's doing.





I also suggest to you that you don't invade his privacy, but explain that as a teen, you need to know what he's doing. And I also suggest, (Being a teen myself and knowing how this feels) not reading his EVERY email, only checking if you suspect that something is up. That way he doesn't feel like his privacy is being invaded, but you still have control. Also, just one more thing, I promise, I know it sounds weird for me to say this as a teen, but my parents have some sort of program installed on our (my brother(16), and my(14) computers.) where they can see what we're typing and everything. I found it annoying at first, but I kinda got used to it. It's also nice so if the kids delete history, you can still see where they're going and everything. Again, if you want him to still trust you, you will want to not read EVERYTHING he's doing and typing...





:D I hope this helps a ton!!! XD
by all means monitor what he is doing on the computer. he is a minor. I would say until age 18 but that is because up till that age he is a minor. at any rate, discuss the whole situation with him and if you think he is trustworthy, there is no need to read every email that is written to or from him. be sure to keep the computer in a public place, not in his room etc. that is my rule and my daughter is 17 she knows that I will randomly check her emails, my space even phone texts. when she is an adult than it is different but I don't check it everyday just periodically and have not been surprised once. we do talk very openly however.
When I was like 15ish my mom knew my myspace password, ugh.


Then I made a new one and she didn't know the password on that one and still doesn't, its my current one.


But she says as long as I live under her roof she has to be one of my friends on there.


She monitors whos on my friend's list and crap, its lame, seeing as I am 19.





She never had my email passwords though.


She never will.





When I have kids I don't think that I would ask my kids for their passwords, or read their txt messages. They need some sorta of privacy.
i would ask him for it until he moves out! Its one thing to be nosey but its another when you care about your child's personal life enough to ask what they're doing, where they are going, who they are going out with, and when they are going to be home... questions like these not asked are setting your teen up to do what they please when they want to and are not going to have very good turn outs... it never does! So be the involved parent, tell them why you are doing it and don't accept anything negative in return, you are looking out for them and they need to understand that the world isn't like it was 50 years ago, there's a lot more danger brewing around every corner and its up to the ADULTS to take a stand against teen violence, pregnancies, drug relations, and depression/ suicides
15 and have had this yahoo account since I was 14. They screened my emails when I used a different thing, but I never got any. I made the account without telling them, then emailed them from it ha ha. They had no choice but to let me keep it. What's the worst that can happen with an email account. He gets emails from his friends at school talking about the same stuff they talk about in school. Don't be naive either, they are cursing and talking about sex, etc.





Good luck with the whole situation





-Billy
im 16 and my mom still makes me tell her my p/w for emails myspace facebook ect. i hate it but w/e im kinda over it now i dont hav anything to hide so if she wants it ill tell her just so she can get off my ***. if ur 14 yo doesnt want to giv it up then hes prolly hiding sumthing just make him tell u or say he has to shut down his account
I am 21 and i have a 3 year old daughter and really i feel like until she lives under my roof she is my baby. At 18 we still make stupid mistakes and I really wish my mother and father would have cared more about what i was doing, at 14 you should really really be talking and trying to see whats she or he is up too, can be loosing her Virginity or he can be wanting to try drugs. Good luck! Remember your not doing a good job until they say i hate you.
I hate parents who do this. You should really never monitor a childs email . Especially at age 14. If you raise them right, there will be no need for this. Hey I am planning on letting my children have computers in their room. Bcuz I am raising them right, not to be porn addicts and things.
nonono once kids reach a certain age, they need some privacy. youve gotten loosen the leash now. I would say the oldest age you should control a kids email is 11 or 12. thats it. its time for ur kid to learn from their own mistakes
DONT EVEN TRY YOU HAVE TO TRUST YOUR CHILD BECAUSE IF YOU DONT THEY WILL BECOME MORE REBELIOUS





NOTE: EVEN IF YOU GET HIS PASSWORD HE WILL DELETE ALL THE BAD STUFF BEFORE YOU CAN READ IT
of course not!


dont ask them what there passwords are,


its invasion of privacy....


like the 14 year old, reading the parents emails.
No, stop butting into your kid's business, Especially at 14 yr's old.
look what our countrys kids are like nowadays. I'm proud you still look after your kids like that. Many strange people out there
no!! u shouldnt even start!!


thats such an invasion of privacy!


i would totally disrespect my parents if they did that to me


u need to learn to trust him..
that just doesn't show trust at all. a parent should have trust in his/her child unless they have a good reason not to trust
No, I wouldn't. I think a 14 year old is entitled to some privacy.
till there 16
im 16 and my parents still watch my internet usage... but not ba12349's... hehehe
If you are the 14 yr olds parent then you are a freakin dumb *** parent. You control the teen until the age of 18 . What a freakin dumb azz parent you are if you are scared of asking your kid for his password. Have some freakin balls. Maybe you will become a strong parent someday. And its not just trusting them its you cant trust al the freaks out there in the internet world. You can buy software to actually prevent kids from going into poorno sites and any other sites you block , look into that if you dont want to ask for the passwords